Suicide Policy and Procedure

Policy template and procedural outline for suicidal contacts.

Table of contents

1. Suicide Policy
2. Purpose
3. Scope
4. Definitions
5. Policy statement
6. Responsibilities
7. Legal considerations
8. Reviews and amendments
9. If there are any substantial changes to the content of this policy that you would like to keep a record of, include them here. E.g. May 2021: changed wording on ___, updated definitions.
10. Suicide call thermometer
11. Suicide Procedure
12. Clarifying the situation
13. Exploring the situation and assessing risk
14. Asking about plan and steps
15. The caller has a plan but no intent
16. Suicide calls over email
17. Offering help
18. The caller has imminent intent
19. The caller has taken action
20. The caller has already disclosed their specific location
21. Signposting to other services
22. Calling for help
23. Asking the caller to call for help themselves
24. Obtaining identifying information from the caller
25. Calling emergency services
26. Continuing the conversation
27. The caller refuses help
28. Discussing suicide and facilitating hope
29. Responding to direct questions
30. Call duration
31. Call time limits
32. Limited callers
33. If the caller becomes silent
34. Logging the call
35. Categorising the call
36. Call description
37. Support and volunteer welfare
38. Internal Nightline support
39. External support
40. Appendix A: Example phrases
41. Appendix B: Continuum of Suicide - triangle

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Suicide Policy

Purpose

This policy and related procedure outline the practices [X] Nightline’s volunteers must follow for suicidal contacts, including situations where a caller’s confidentiality may be broken. This policy and procedure can be adapted to all methods of contact, with exceptions for particular methods noted where relevant.

This policy ensures [X] Nightline’s practices meet the requirements for Nightline Association Good Practice Guidelines and wider sector best practice.

Scope

This policy applies to all contacts made with [X] Nightline through its official listening channels [phone, IM, email, Skype, drop-in, etc] that discuss the topic of suicide. All listening volunteers at [X] Nightline must adhere to this policy and related procedures when providing support to callers.

Definitions

In this policy and procedure “calls” and “callers” may refer to all uses of Nightline’s student support and information service whether in verbal or written communication.

Note: The word ‘commit’ is often associated with illegality, negativity, and wrong-doing; therefore [X] Nightline avoids using this term in policy and training documents.

Policy statement

Being there for individuals who may be considering ending their life by suicide is a vital part of the listening service that [X] Nightline provides. As the vision of the Nightline movement is for fewer students to die by suicide, [X] Nightline will make help available to a caller if it is required to keep them safe. Nightline volunteers are encouraged to clarify if a caller is feeling suicidal where appropriate.

If a caller is imminently suicidal or has taken action towards taking their own life, listening volunteers will ask the caller if they are able to call for help themselves, or if they would like emergency services to be contacted on their behalf. If the caller refuses help, help will be offered again at regular appropriate intervals, offering the caller an opportunity to seek help if their situation has changed.

[X] Nightline is part of [governing body]. When dealing with suicidal contacts, [X] Nightline will ensure they act in accordance with [governing’s body’s] Safeguarding Policy. In the event of any conflict between this policy and this Safeguarding Policy, [X] Nightline will follow the Safeguarding Policy.

[Option 1A: implicit consent]

[X] if the caller discloses their specific location the listening volunteer will take this as implicit consent and call for help on the caller’s behalf. This policy is based on the assumption that a caller would not provide the required location specificity unless a part of them wanted help, so Nightline will call for help in an effort to keep the caller safe. Therefore, [X] Nightline will inform the caller that unless they end the call, the listening volunteer will call for help on their behalf.

[Option 1B: implicit consent only if incoherent or unconscious]

[X] if the caller discloses their specific location and then becomes incoherent or unconscious during the call the listening volunteer will take this as implicit consent and call for help on the caller’s behalf. This policy is based on the assumption that a caller may not understand the risks or consequences of their actions while in a state of distress, but they may not be able to communicate this. Therefore, [X] Nightline will inform the caller that unless they end the call, the listening volunteer will call for help on their behalf.

[Option 1C: explicit consent]

[X] Nightline will not call for help unless the caller gives explicit consent to do so. This policy respects the caller’s wishes while maintaining the confidentiality and non-judgementality of the Nightline service.

Listening volunteers must inform the caller if their confidentiality is to be broken and that emergency services will be called on their behalf, unless the volunteer reasonably believes this would cause the caller further distress or risk of harm.

[Option 2A: if your Nightline has no call duration limits]

[X] Nightline does not limit call duration and will stay on the phone as long as necessary.

[Option 2B: if your Nightline has call duration limits, and wish to maintain this on suicide calls]

For sustainability of the service, calls are subject to a maximum duration of [X] hours. This also applies to suicide calls.

[Option 2C: if your Nightline has call duration limits, but wishes not to have limits on suicide calls]

For sustainability of the service, calls are typically subject to a maximum duration of [X] hours. However, in calls where the caller is imminently suicidal, the volunteer will always stay on the call for as long as necessary.

Responsibilities

Legal considerations

There is no legal obligation under the [England & Wales: Mental Capacity Act 2005; Northern Ireland: Mental Capacity Act (NI) 2016; Scotland: Adults with Incapacity (Scotland) Act 2000; Ireland: Assisted Decision-Making (Capacity) Act 2015] for Nightlines to call for help on behalf of a caller. As Nightline volunteers are not qualified mental health practitioners, they should not make any assessment of a caller’s mental capacity, nor should they make any decisions about keeping the caller safe based on their capacity or incapacity.

An individual can only be held criminally liable for complicity in another person’s suicide if they encourage or assist suicide or an attempt at suicide. By following this policy and procedure, [X] Nightline’s principles, and training provided to all volunteers, [X] Nightline will in no way be responsible or legally liable for the actions of a caller.

Reviews and amendments

If there are any substantial changes to the content of this policy that you would like to keep a record of, include them here. E.g. May 2021: changed wording on ___, updated definitions.

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Suicide call thermometer

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Suicide Procedure

1. Clarifying the situation

Some callers may not explicitly say that they are feeling suicidal, but there may be cues that the call-taking volunteer can listen/look out for to ascertain if this is the case.

Cues can include things like:

• talking about feeling hopeless, helpless, trapped, or alone
• expressing emotional distress or a sense of desperation
• feeling that they don’t deserve support or help
• saying they have no reason to go on living
• making a will or giving away personal possessions
• searching for a means of doing personal harm
• sleeping or eating too much or too little
• engaging in reckless behaviour, including excessive alcohol or drug consumption
• avoiding social interactions with others, less interest in hobbies
• expressing rage or intentions to seek revenge
• showing signs of extreme anxiousness or agitation
• having dramatic mood swings
• talking about finding a way out or a way to end the pain

There is no set number of cues that indicate a caller may be feeling suicidal, so it is up to the volunteer to decide when they feel it is appropriate to directly ask the caller if they are feeling suicidal. Asking about suicide reduces uncertainty for the listener and reassures the caller that you are there to support them, no matter what. If the call-taking volunteer has picked up on cues and feels it is appropriate to clarify the situation, they should ask the caller directly, for example:

“You mentioned X, Y, and Z. Have you ever had thoughts of ending your life?”

Appendix A provides several sample phrases for how to clarify suicidal ideation with the caller.

1. Exploring the situation and assessing risk

   1. Asking about plan and steps

If a caller answers yes to a clarifying question around suicide or has explicitly told you that they are thinking about suicide, the call-taking volunteer should sensitively and empathetically explore their current situation and the level of risk present, for example:

“I’m glad that you could trust me with this. Are you feeling suicidal now?/ Have you taken any action?

If the caller answers no to feeling suicidal now or taken any action continue to actively listen as normal, using the guidance from Section 5 to support you in discussing their suicidal ideation. The volunteer may choose to clarify risk again if the call lasts a long time, or if they feel the caller’s situation has changed at all.

Appendix A provides several sample phrases for how to explore the caller’s level of planning and risk.

1. The caller has a plan but no intent

If the caller expresses that they have thought about a plan for taking their life, the call-taking volunteer should explore this further with them. This may include asking when and how they plan to do it, whether they currently have the means, as well as how this plan makes them feel, for example:

“Have you thought about when or how you would take your life?”

“How does it feel to tell me about this plan?”

“Do you have the means to harm yourself right now?”

Being willing to discuss this with the caller helps develop a rapport and gives the caller permission to talk openly about their thoughts about suicide. It may also be helpful to ask if the caller has attempted suicide before or whether they have spoken to anyone else about how they are feeling, as these are important risk and protective factors.

Appendix A provides several sample phrases for how to explore the caller’s level of planning and risk.

By engaging with the caller about their suicidal ideation, the call-taking volunteer will hopefully begin to ascertain whether or not the caller is at imminent risk of acting on their thoughts of suicide. If the volunteer feels that there is a high level of risk or that the caller would benefit from hearing about options available to them, they may want to offer help, as outlined in Section 3. Otherwise, the conversation should be continued as normal, using the guidance in Section 5.

1. Suicide calls over email

When a suicide call is received over email, the steps below often cannot be followed in the same way. Therefore, it is up to the judgement of the volunteer(s) responding to and reviewing the responses that are sent as to how they explore the situation with a caller.

If a caller has not explicitly mentioned they are feeling suicidal, this should first be clarified. Then, it may be necessary to simultaneously ask the caller about the extent of their plans/intent and signpost the caller to sources of support, such as in Section 3.4. Since email communication is asynchronous, it is best practice to err on the side of caution and outline to the caller what support is available to them so that they can access this if needed. It may be necessary to explicitly state that Nightline is not able to call for help on a caller’s behalf if they have contacted the service through email.

1. Offering help

   1. The caller has imminent intent

If the exploration of the caller’s current situation indicates that they are imminently planning to act on their thoughts of suicide, the call-taking volunteer should calmly and sensitively explain [X] Nightline’s policy around suicide and ask them if they need immediate help. It is important to do this in a way that promotes the caller’s agency and empowers them to make their own decisions, while still informing them of the options available to them.

The options for help are [delete/amend as necessary]: the emergency services, university crisis team, campus security. The sample phrase below may be adapted to offer the most appropriate service, dependent on the caller’s current situation.

The volunteer should first ask the caller if they want help:

“Would you like me to call for help [an ambulance/ campus security etc]”

Either at the same time, or as a follow-up, the volunteer should explain [X] Nightline’s suicide policy and the conditions in which the volunteer will call for help on the caller’s behalf [ie if implicit consent is used]. The sample phrase below may be adapted to offer the most appropriate service, dependent on the caller’s current situation.

“If you tell me where you are, it is Nightline’s policy to call the emergency services, but it is completely up to you whether you wish to share your location with me. No matter what, I’m here to listen. Would you like to tell me where you are so that I can call for help?”

If the caller accepts help being called on their behalf, follow the guidance in Section 4.

If the caller refuses help, continue the conversation and exploration of how they are feeling, using the guidance in Section 5.

The call-taking volunteer should offer to call for help again every 15-20 minutes, or as they deem appropriate, depending on the level of risk and intent the caller is expressing.

1. The caller has taken action

If the exploration of the caller’s current situation indicates that they have already taken action and are attempting suicide, the call-taking volunteer should calmly and sensitively explain [X] Nightline’s policy around suicide and immediately offer to call for help.

The options for help are [delete/amend as necessary]: the emergency services, university crisis team, campus security. The sample phrase below may be adapted to offer the most appropriate service, dependent on the caller’s current situation.

The volunteer should immediately offer the caller help:

“Would you like me to contact the emergency services [or the university crisis team] to help you?”

Either at the same time, or as a follow-up, the volunteer should explain [X] Nightline’s suicide policy and the conditions in which the volunteer will call for help on the caller’s behalf. The sample phrase below may be adapted to offer the most appropriate service, dependent on the caller’s current situation.

“If you tell me where you are, it is Nightline’s policy to call the emergency services, but it is completely up to you whether you wish to share your location with me. Nightline wants to support you and help keep you safe. Would you like to tell me where you are so that I can call for help?”

If the caller accepts help being called on their behalf, follow the guidance in Section 4.

If the caller refuses help, continue the conversation and exploration of how they are feeling, using the guidance in Section 5.

The call-taking volunteer should offer to call for help again every 15-20 minutes, or as they deem appropriate, depending on the level of risk and intent the caller is expressing.

1. The caller has already disclosed their specific location

If a caller has disclosed their general location earlier in the call before Nightline’s policy was explained to them, the call-taking volunteer should reflect on this and ask the caller if they want to reveal their specific location so that help can be called on their behalf:

“You previously told me that you were at ___. In order for me to call for help, I need to know specifically where you are so the emergency services/university crisis team can get to you. It is completely up to you whether you wish to share your location with me, and I am here to listen no matter what. Would you like to tell me where you are so that I can call for help?”

If the caller accepts help being called on their behalf, follow the guidance in Section 4.

If the caller refuses help, continue the conversation and exploration of how they are feeling, using the guidance in Section 5.

The call-taking volunteer should offer to call for help again every 15-20 minutes, or as they deem appropriate, depending on the level of risk and intent the caller is expressing.

1. Signposting to other services

Regardless of the caller’s current level of suicidality, the call-taking volunteer may find it appropriate to signpost the caller to other services that can better support them. This is an important protective factor to offer to the caller, who can then choose whether or not to exercise their agency in accepting the signposted information.

Appropriate times to signpost might be if the caller has: suggested speaking to someone about how they are feeling, indicated they don’t know who to speak to, refused help, or the caller otherwise feels that it would be appropriate to present the caller with options they may not presently be aware of, for example:

“I have some information about specialised services that can help with what you’re going through, and I really encourage you to talk to them. I have their details right here if you want them, but I’m not forcing you to go anywhere. I’m here for you for as long as you want.”

If the caller is receptive to hearing about these services, the call-taking volunteer can pass on any of the following information, as they deem appropriate:

• University mental health services
• GP
• NHS 24 / NHS 111
• Samaritans
• Papyrus
• Other local mental health services
• And those noted on https://nightline.nsn.org.uk/ which is kept up to date by another provider (ie not something the Nightline has to keep updating).

1. Calling for help

   1. Asking the caller to call for help themselves

If the caller has accepted the offer of help, the call-taking volunteer should first ascertain whether it is appropriate to ask the caller to call for help themselves. If the caller is in a state of crisis and is not able to convey the relevant information, it may not be appropriate to ask the caller to do this.

If the volunteer feels the caller is able to do this, they should ask the caller if they are able and/or willing to call for help themselves, whether this be emergency services, the university crisis team, or a friend/family member. This helps promote agency for the caller and in the case of contacting emergency services, could lead to help arriving faster as the caller can more easily relay the appropriate information to the operator. The volunteer could ask:

“The fastest way to get help is for you to call the emergency services yourself. Are you able to call 999/112 just now?”

“Is there anyone nearby who you could call to help you?”

If the caller has questions about what will happen when they call the emergency services, the volunteer should answer to the best of their ability, using the information in Section 4.3. If the caller has contacted Nightline via telephone, the volunteer should encourage the caller to hang up and call for help themselves, but that they are welcome to call back later should they need.

If the caller is not able or willing to call for help themselves, the volunteer should proceed to Section 4.2 and obtain the necessary identifying information from the caller.

1. Obtaining identifying information from the caller

If the caller has consented to help being called on their behalf, calmly and clearly tell them that you will need to ask them for some information to pass on to the emergency services:

“In order for me to get you help, I will need some information from you. Are you able to tell me your name and where you are just now?”

The caller’s name and specific location is the most important information to obtain. Their location needs to be specific enough for emergency services to find them, e.g. a specific floor and room in student halls, or an identifiable outdoor location. If this is the only information the caller is able or willing to provide, it is enough for emergency services to be contacted.

If the call-taking volunteer feels it is safe to do so, explain to the caller that you will pass their details to their shift partner, who will call for help while you stay on the call with them:

“Another volunteer is going to call the emergency services, and I will stay on the line with you throughout. I will need to ask you some details, and I will write them down for my colleague, who will pass them on.”

If the caller is conscious and able to provide other information, gently ask them for the following:

• The caller’s phone number
• Name and date of birth
• What action they have taken or are about to take on their life
• Whether they are able to open the door for the emergency services
• Age and sex
• Any relevant medical history

Continue to reassure the caller and answer any questions they may have about what will happen next. If possible, ask the caller to ensure that any doors are unlocked, pets are shut away, and lights are turned on to make their location more visible.

It is important not to promise that a particular service will arrive, such as the ambulance, because it is possible that the police or other services may also be called out, depending on the circumstances of the call.

1. Calling emergency services

After receiving the relevant identifying information from the call-taking volunteer, the support volunteer should use the office landline phone (dial 9 to call out) to call 999/112. When asked which service is required, answer “ambulance”.

The volunteer should explain that they are calling from [X] Nightline and the emergency is not related to them, using the sample phrase below.

“I am calling from [X] Nightline, a student-run listening and information service. The emergency is not related to myself. We have a service user contacting us [over the phone, over instant message, other] who is at imminent risk of dying by suicide and Nightline’s policy requires passing on their details to the emergency services.”

The support volunteer should collaborate with the emergency services by providing all relevant identifying information and answering any questions as best they can. It may be helpful to let the emergency services know whether or not the caller has consented to emergency services being contacted, and describing in detail what actions the caller has taken. The volunteer making the call has no obligation to provide any personal details to the emergency services.

If you do not have the caller’s phone number, explain to the operator that calls to our service are anonymous and you do not have access to the number. The operator may ask further questions about the caller’s condition, such as whether they are conscious and breathing. Depending on the caller’s condition, the operator may give further instructions as to how the volunteer taking the call can assist before the ambulance arrives. Depending on the context of the call and whether or not the caller has consented to help being called on their behalf, this may or may not be information that the call-taking volunteer can safely relay to the caller.

1. Continuing the conversation

   1. The caller refuses help

If the caller refuses the offer of help at any point, the volunteer should not push this. It is important however, to make sure that Nightline’s policy of implicit consent is explained to the caller so that they are aware of how their disclosure of information will be used. The volunteer could read out the statement below and then continue the conversation and exploration of how they are feeling, using the guidance in Section 5:

“Just so you know, I can’t call for help unless you ask me to. [If you tell me where you are, it is Nightline’s policy to call the emergency services, but it is completely up to you whether you wish to share your location with me.]”

The call-taking volunteer should offer to call for help again every 15-20 minutes, or as they deem appropriate, depending on the level of risk and intent the caller is expressing.

1. Discussing suicide and facilitating hope

Throughout their conversation with the caller, the call-taking volunteer should endeavour to engage as much as possible with the topic of suicide and anything else the caller brings up. Nightline’s basic active listening skills are always at the core of handling any call but when it comes to calls around suicide, it is even more important to engage with the caller as empathetically and supportively as possible.

After clarifying with the caller whether they are feeling suicidal, volunteers should strive to organically respond to the caller and whatever they wish to talk about. Appendix A includes sample phrases for discussing the concept of suicide and facilitating hope if the volunteer is feeling stuck. By delving deeper into the caller’s current situation, the volunteer may ask more questions around their thoughts and feelings around suicide, how they feel about the concept of dying, identifying and exploring any protective factors, and exploring coping mechanisms or positive things the caller has mentioned. All of this is done in a non-directive way to maintain an empathetic rapport with the caller.

There is a balance to be struck in not asking too many questions, not just focusing on the positives, and still utilising all of the core Nightline active listening skills while engaging with the caller.

1. Responding to direct questions

In most situations, if a caller asks the volunteer a direct question, the aim is to deflect the question and try to not offer an opinion to remain impartial and non-advisory. However, there are circumstances in calls about suicide where [X] Nightline feels that it can be beneficial to a caller in crisis to receive a direct response to ultimately attempt to prevent someone taking their own life. Some sample phrases that can be used in these (rare) situations include:

1) If a caller asks directly whether you think they should kill themselves

“[X] Nightline wishes none of their callers would take their own life but ultimately it is your decision, and I will be here for you no matter what.”

2) If a caller asks directly what they should do to stay safe and not act on their thoughts of suicide

“You’ve told me that you don’t want to die, but [the pills are right there in front of you]. Are you able to [get rid of them] to keep yourself safe?”

[Optional phrase:] It is up to each volunteer whether they feel comfortable answering such direct questions, so volunteers’ actions will be respected and supported no matter what.

1. Call duration

   1. Call time limits

The normal maximum call time limit for telephone (X minutes) and instant messaging (X minutes) does not apply to calls about suicide. Volunteers are encouraged to stay on the call as long as the caller needs, within reason. If the caller is no longer in a situation of imminent risk and the call has lasted longer than 2 hours, the call-taking volunteer is encouraged to summarise elements of the call and try to get the caller to reflect on their current state of mind. This may help bring the call to a natural close. Calls can be brought to an end by the time the service closes. However, if the volunteer feels it is beneficial to extend the call past service times they will be supported in this temporary instance.

1. Limited callers

Repeat callers who have been assigned a specific policy are to be released from any time limits on their calls only if the caller has taken steps to end their life.

1. If the caller becomes silent

If the caller becomes silent, the call-taking volunteer should continue to provide reassurance and ask the caller if they are able to indicate in any way that they are still there, either by blowing or tapping into the phone. The usual silent call time limits should be followed for suicide calls. For phone calls, the volunteer may want to ask the caller to indicate if they are still there, for example:

“I’m not sure if you’re there anymore but if you are, could you make a sound by tapping or blowing into the phone? If I don’t hear anything from you in the next 30 minutes, there may be an issue with the line and I will hang up the phone. Please feel free to call back, we are open until 8am.”

If the emergency services have been contacted on behalf of the caller, the call-taking volunteer should stay on the line either until the connection is ended or the emergency services arrive. If the line is still open, it may be that the emergency services let the volunteer know that they have the situation in hand. If this does not happen but the emergency services are heard to arrive, the volunteer may end the call.

1. Logging the call

   1. Categorising the call

Suicide calls should be logged on Portal as per [X] Nightline’s usual call recording procedures. Importantly, it should be distinguished whether the call was about “suicidal thoughts” or “suicide attempt”. “Suicidal thoughts” is the category that applies to all suicide calls where the caller does not act on their thoughts, so can include suicidal ideation and intent. “Suicide attempt” applies to calls where the caller makes an attempt on their life or this action is so imminent that the call-taking volunteer phones for help on their behalf.

1. Call description

The call-taking volunteer should take care to only record factual information about the call they have taken, and not include any identifiable information. In the description of the call, they should note whether the caller was experiencing any of the following: suicidal ideation, suicide plan, suicidal intent, imminent suicidal intent, and/or suicide attempt. The volunteer should also record whether or not the emergency services were called, and whether the caller consented to this.

1. Support and volunteer welfare

   1. Internal Nightline support

[This is where Nightlines would include details of internal support provisions for their service.]

Suggestions of details that should be included are:

• Who should be contacted for extra support when taking a suicide call (i.e. Coordinator(s), Welfare Officer) and what responsibilities they have in supporting with the call
• Whether the call-taking volunteer can pass the call on to another volunteer or committee member
• What debrief provisions there are for all volunteers involved in the call
• Whether the shift can be ended early after a suicide call
• Whether volunteers are encouraged to take a break from doing shifts after taking a suicide call

• What support will be offered the morning/day/week after

  1. External support

[This is where Nightlines would include details of external support provisions for their service.]

Suggestions of details that should be included are:

• Whether any stakeholders need to be contacted and informed about suicide calls
• Whether there are any external support provisions available to volunteers who have taken a suicide call, e.g. emergency counselling, chat with university welfare support

Appendix A: Example phrases

[You might find this useful for putting up in the office as a supplement to your procedure, or adding some select phrases to your procedure documentation. You may wish to make this shorter for ease of reference by eliminating some options, but a long list of options is included here]

Clarifying if a caller is feeling suicidal:

• “(Do you mind me asking,) are you feeling suicidal?”
• “Can I ask if you’re feeling suicidal?”
• “Have you ever thought of harming yourself?”
• “Are you planning to take your own life?”
• “You mentioned [insert phrases], have you been having suicidal thoughts?”
• “Have you ever had thoughts of ending your life?” - “Are you feeling suicidal now?”
• “When you say [x], do you mean that you’ve been having suicidal thoughts?”
• “Have you been thinking about ending your life?”
• “Sometimes when people feel [x], they may consider suicide. Is this something you have thought about?”
• “Do you mind me asking if you have taken any steps towards suicide this evening? It doesn’t make a difference to me being here to listen, however we are able to offer a couple of options if you’d like.”

Assessing level of planning:

• “How strong do you find these thoughts?”
• “Have you thought about how you might end your life?”
• “Have you made any plans towards suicide?”
• “Have you taken any steps or made any plans towards this?”
• “Have you taken any suicidal action?”
• “When are you thinking of ending your life?”
• “Have you thought about when or how you would take your life?”
• “When did you begin considering suicide as an option?”
• “How did you come to this decision?”
• “How do you feel about your plan?”
• “Have you ever felt suicidal before?”
• “Have you ever made a suicide attempt before?”
• “Have you felt like this before?”
• “What are your plans beyond this conversation?”
• “Do you have an intention/plan to act on your thoughts of suicide?”

Establishing connection and empathy:

• “You are not alone in this, I’m here with you.”
• “I may not be able to understand exactly how you feel, but I care about you and want to help.”
• “It can be really difficult to talk about this, I’m glad you’ve reached out.”
• “How can I best support you right now?”
• “These feelings don’t last forever, I’m here for you.”
• “How do you find talking about this makes you feel?”
• “How does it feel to be speaking [about this / to me] right now?”
• “Can I ask what made you decide to talk about these feelings tonight?”

Exploring positives:

• “You mentioned [something good here], would you like to tell me a bit more about that?”
• “How would you feel if you didn’t end your life (at X time)?”
• “Is there anyone you think could support you as you go through this difficult time?”
• “Where do you see yourself in five years?”
• “Is there any part of you that doesn’t want to die?”
• “Would you say that you want to die or is it that you want the problems you’re experiencing to stop?”
• “Would you still want to die if your circumstances changed?”
• “When you’re feeling just a little more optimistic, what thoughts about the future might you be having?”

Engaging with the concept of death:

• “What do you think dying will be like?”
• “How do you feel about (the idea of) dying?”
• “What do you think it will be like to be dead?”
• “What does death mean to you?”
• “What’s the worst thing you’re thinking right now?”
• “What do you think happens next?”

Exploring coping mechanisms:

• “What has made you feel better in the past?”
• “What’s kept you going in the past when you’ve had these thoughts?”
• “How have you coped with this situation up to now?”
• “Is there anything that helps relieve the [way/pain] you’re feeling?”
• “Is there anything you could do to distract yourself right now?”
• “What things could help you with these thoughts?”
• “Are there times you don’t feel this way?”
• “Is there anything you think might help right now?”
• “What would you like to happen?”

Offering referral:

• “I’m glad you called us today, but I’m aware I don’t have the specialised knowledge that I think could be useful for you. I know of some services that could be helpful… would you be interested in me sharing these with you? I am of course happy to stay on the phone with you for as long as you’d like.”
• “I care about your safety even if you think nobody else does, and I really recommend that you speak to a specialised service about how you have been feeling.”
• “We have some information about specialised services that can help explore what you’re feeling, and I really encourage you to talk to them. I have their details right here if you want them, but I’m not forcing you to go anywhere. I’m here for you for as long as you want.”
• “We have some information available about other services that may be able to help you, would you be interested in this? However, I’d like to stress that I’m happy to talk to you for as long as you want.”

Offering help:

• “Would you like me to call [an ambulance / emergency services]?”
• “If at any point you would like me to call for emergency services, just let me know.”
• “If at any point you decide that you would like an ambulance, I am able to call one for you. If you do not want this, we can continue talking for as long as you’d like.”
• “If you do take any action, would you like me to call an ambulance?”
• “Nightline can’t trace your call, so I need to know where you are if you want me to get help.”
• “Can I ask you for some details so that I can inform the emergency services and get help if you need it?”
• “You have told me that you have taken action towards ending your own life. If you disclose your location at any point during this call, then I can and will ring an ambulance for you. If you do not disclose your location, then I will not be able to ring an ambulance. Would you like to tell me where you are so that I can call for help?”
• “It is your choice whether you want an ambulance to be called, and I am not going to try and influence that. However, if at any point you change your mind about wanting to die, tell me your location and I can ring an ambulance for you. In the meantime, I’m still here to listen for as long as you need.”
• “Would you like me to take down your details in case you change your mind?”
• “If you tell me where you are, it is Nightline’s policy to call an ambulance on your behalf. It is completely up to you whether you wish to share your location with me so I can call for help.”
• “It’s okay if you don’t want me to call anyone else and I’m not going to pressure you into it, but if you do change your mind, please feel free to say at any time.”

Responding to “Do you think I should kill myself?”:

• “For what it’s worth, Nightline wishes nobody would kill themselves, but ultimately it’s your decision.”
• “[X] Nightline wishes none of their callers would take their own life but ultimately it is your decision, and I will be here for you no matter what.”

Practical suggestions for staying safe:

• “You’ve told me that you don’t want to die, but [the pills are right there in front of you]. Are you able to [get rid of them] to keep yourself safe?”

Appendix B: Continuum of Suicide - triangle

The model below was created by Professor Andrew Reeves of the Charlie Waller Trust to illustrate the varying states of suicidal ideation and intent. Please do not use it without acknowledgement.

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